Ladies, have you ever experienced this? You have had just had an enjoyable evening with a guy. He laughed, you laughed. He is looking scrumptious and you are definitely on point. The clock ticks away and the night ends, the waiter brings the bill. Without a thought or perhaps by second nature the waiter sits the bill in front of your sexy date, who then politely slides it over to you. Then he makes the ultimate mistake and says “You got this right?”

After that then I may decide to pay for us both but initially he should be coming out of pocket or he should not be on a date with anyone. What happened to the act of chivalry and courting a woman? Men always use women being independent as their excuse for laziness and lack of chivalry. Sounds like B.S. to me. In my opinion there should be a balance. I can be independent and still want to be treated like a lady as you should want to be treated like a man.

If a man asks me out then I am expecting for him to pay for the date because he is courting me. After we have went on a few dates and are moving towards establishing a relationship then I am perfectly fine with paying the bill a few times or maybe even alternating. However, if I ask him out then I should be okay with paying the bill. After all, I initiated the date. Some women will disagree with me and say that I have lost my mind, but to me the order still matters.

I am not one of those women looking for a baller or a big spender to take care of me. I do believe in chivalry with balance. For me, the problem begins when the guy asks me out and then never has money for the date, especially if he knew when he asked me out that he was broke. If you are broke, male or female, you know it. He needs to spend less time chasing women and more time on getting his money up. What are your thoughts?